Insecure Writer’s Support Group

It’s time for another group posting of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Time to release our fears to the world – or offer encouragement to those who are feeling neurotic. We post the first Wednesday of every month. I encourage everyone to visit at least a dozen new blogs and leave a comment. Your words might be the encouragement someone needs.


Thanks, Alex for starting this fun blog fest. I’m all about support and encouragement to help people through worries and fears. This is my first time participating in this and I wondered what the heck I’d write about.

But then it hit me.

A friend of mine put something really interesting on my facebook wall the other day:

I pray that you guys get back to your “new normal” and that God shows you special blessings this week!

Now it might sound weird to anyone reading it who doesn’t know that my mother-in-law, Lynn, died last Friday. So, my new normal is life without her.

She was the first person who ever read my work.

As in first EVER! She was a fantastic writer. I plan to share something she wrote later this week, but for now, my current insecurity is. “I’ve lost one of my biggest cheerleaders.”

Her endless encouragement has always fueled me. Sure, I have a lot of support out there, but still. Lynn (that’s why I chose Lynn as my pen name) just had this knack to know when I needed a quick phone call or an email of encouragement.

She was the first person (besides my hubby) I’d tell exciting writing news to.

And now that’s gone.

While I’m heartbroken and floundering a little right now, I know she’s no longer dealing with the agony of cancer. I know she’s cheering me on from a different place now. I know I’ll always hold her dear to my heart and dedicate every book I write to her.

It’s just hard. Even writing this post is difficult…yet helpful in its own way.


Who is one of your biggest supporters? I’d love to hear about him/her!

25 thoughts on “Insecure Writer’s Support Group

  1. You have GOBS of cheerleaders who support you, but I totally understand how it feels to lose one you’re so close to. My mom was my biggest cheerleader, and losing her to cancer was devastating. I get how you feel.

    It will take a while to adjust to your “new normal,” but eventually it’ll happen. Lean on your friends and family when you need us. We love you!

    • Thanks!!! 🙂 I’m super glad she got to see her name in my first book. My first copy arrived in August, she died in October. So, she got to see some of the process. That was GREAT!

  2. I’m so sorry for your loss. I completely understand as I lost my dear sweet best friend MIL in March of 1989. Dee Dee was given 6 weeks when she was first diagnosed with terminal cancer. I was still wobbling under that fact when she asked me to be her caregiver during this time. I was ill prepared for it, but it was not until long after the most wonderful 6 months we shared that she died on her terms that I understood why she asked me. Yes, she lived another 6 long months doing just what she wanted to do, and that was to die in her own home. The many hours of talks and laughter is forever imprinted in my memories. I learned the new normal as it took it’s time…
    Your MIL is with you always, and more than likely you feel her presence already if not soon enough…*S* I wish you all the best and feel blessed that I came to your blog post today. Sending you love and light to you and your husband and thank you for sharing your loss with us.
    You are not alone.

  3. Wow I can totally feel that line “My new normal.” I hope that you find a happy place in your ‘new normal’ with the memories of your wonderful mother-in-law. I will pray for you and your family. Hope your hubby is also finding strength in the knowledge that she’s in our father’s arms. Hugs my friend.

  4. Lynn, I am so sorry for your loss. My mother-in-law was my biggest cheerleader as well, and we lost her almost two years ago. I still miss her. I hope you will find lots of support in this online writing community. It’s a pretty amazing group of people.

  5. I’m still keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I know Lynn was one special lady and she now rests in the arms of our Lord. *hugs* You know I’m always just an email or phone call away.

  6. That’s a hard loss, Lynn! And finding a new normal is a good way to think about it. I really hope you get there, and while there is no replacing how special she was as your FIRST cheerleader–you have lots of us!

  7. I am so sorry for your loss. I always wanted my father to see my published work, but he was gone before that was possible. I was thinking this same thing the other day…how it feels like a big hole not to have him reading my work. I asked myself who I am writing for, and decided, I need to write for myself. You will always write for your Lynn and yes, somewhere she will be reading your work, but remember that you write because it gives YOU joy!

    I wish you strength and peace in the days ahead.

  8. Hi Lynn,

    I’m so sorry for your loss. It can’t be easy when your one and only emotional support system is no longer there for you. Did she know you used her name as your pen name? I sure that would have made her really happy :o)

    You’ll find your sprite again. In time.

    Thank you for dropping by my blog today. I love seeing new faces that really make an effort to connect.

    Take care, Lynn. I’ll be thinking of you.

    • She did. AND, I got to be with her when my very first copy of Wasteland arrived so she could read the dedication. It was a special time I’ll always remember and cherish! 🙂

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