It’s ok to be angry.
Yep. You read that right. It’s okay to be angry.
Say it with me. It’s okay to be angry.
So often were told it’s not okay. That it’s bad. That you’re bad for being angry. But anger is a legit feeling just like being happy or sad.
So why do people think is it bad? What is so scary about anger?
I would venture to guess it’s because of what we do when we’re angry. It can look pretty different than what we do when we’re happy.
So yeah. I guess I can see why people shy away from anger. Why it might be less acceptable.
But that doesn’t mean we won’t feel it. If not ever being angry is as simple as telling yourself to never be angry, our world would be pretty peaceful, huh?
But it’s not that easy, and telling ourselves we’re bad because of it, that adds to the destruction.
Anger is a legit feeling. And, yes, it can be volatile, so if we ignore it, shove our head in the sand about it, it can become even more volatile! That’s when you’re asking for destruction.
But really, it’s not the actual emotion that is so bad, it’s what we do in our anger that we need to look at.
Embrace the emotion. Be aware of it. Address it. Because of its intensity, if we try to ignore it or pretend it’s not a part of our reality, it can lead to some pretty scary results. Violence, aggression, aggressive words to friends and family, destruction, impulsive decisions that lead to a host of adverse consequences.
There are a lot of theories and ideas out there on how to handle angry feelings, and some of us need outside help learning how to handle anger.
Get help if you need it. No shame in that at all. Don’t be scared of the anger. Embrace it as a legit feeling and get whatever help you need to learn how to deal with it.
You’re not evil. You’re capable. The main thing is to not ignore it.